How Alcohol Abuse Can Hurt Your Love Life
Alcohol might relax individuals with social anxiety and make even the shyest guys less inhibited, but alcohol can also be what holds a person back.
When a person becomes addicted to alcohol, he or she can no longer make objective, informed decisions and care for himself or herself. This becomes particularly difficult when the person addicted to alcohol is also single and wants to continue going out with someone, as the individual’s alcoholism will inevitably stop any prospective relationships from coming to fruition.
As such, here are 10 ways that alcohol addiction can ruin one’s “game.”
1: THE RANK SMELL OF ALCOHOLISM
Many products are designed for the express purpose of making us smell either cleaner, fresher, or perhaps more attractive. In most cases, achieving the desired effect takes very little of these sprays, wipes, powders, and so on. However, there are still those select few odors that not even Febreze or Axe Body Spray can conquer: Alcoholism.
It’s a combination of smells consisting of stale alcohol, cigarettes, perhaps vomit and unbrushed teeth. Worst of all, alcohol can even be secreted from one’s pores, resulting in something of a vinegar smell all over one’s body. In short, one whiff of a person who has been drinking heavily will be off-putting even to those whose olfactory organs aren’t the strongest of their senses.
2: SKEWED PERCEPTION OF WHAT’S ‘PRESENTABLE’
When a person spends the majority of his or her time intoxicated from excessive alcohol consumption, he or she consequently makes a lot of poor decisions. Being intoxicated results in skewed judgments, making intolerable things seem tolerable or making things one would normally never do seem appealing. In such a state, even getting oneself ready for a date could be a disaster as one’s date may not get that wearing parachute pants was meant as a joke or that wearing one’s house shoes was meant to be ironic.
3: THE STATE OF THE HOME
It’s common knowledge that many people addicted to alcohol aren’t the tidiest beings. They spend much of their time in poor shape, and it’s almost impossible even to comprehend the state of one’s home environment, let alone actually clean it. Therefore, a person with a drinking problem who brings a potential sexual partner home to see it looking — and smelling — atrocious, it’s unlikely that the individual would be getting another date.
Was I supposed to pick her up at seven? Or did she say 11? Memory doesn’t tend to be a strength of the alcoholic brain. This can range from absentmindedness to a full-blown blackout and has been a topic addressed in many different studies. Unfortunately, this can quickly ruin any chances one might have of a continuing relationship, especially when at a loss even for the person’s name.
5: SEXUAL PERFORMANCE TAKES A BIG HIT
Men who drink to excess frequently find themselves unable to perform when it comes to sexual situations. This has also been found in women, making them unable to achieve orgasm. Worst of all,evidence suggests that after a prolonged period of alcoholism, this alcohol-fueled sexual dysfunction can become full-blown impotence.
6: BEING UNINHIBITED & PROMISCUOUS MEANS STDS
Of the many problems that being uninhibited can cause, the possibility of contracting a sexually transmitted disease (STD) is probably one of the worst. Being uninhibited can easily lead to promiscuity, and without the dedicated use of protection, one can easily find him or herself suffering from more diseases than just alcoholism.
7: BEING UNINHIBITED MEANS EMBARRASSING YOURSELF
In addition to the sexual implications of nearly nonexistent inhibitions, alcohol-addicted people are prone to embarrassing themselves really, really badly. Simply take a problem drinker to any bar’s karaoke night for a prime example. Coupled with poor judgment, a lack of inhibition can lead to the person trying to impress others to nauseating excess. This backfires all too frequently and probably causes one’s companions some serious secondhand embarrassment.
8: ALCOHOLISM DULLS ROMANTICISM & EMOTIONS
Drunk people are very seldom romantic. In fact, being intoxicated on alcohol more frequently and readily leads to lewdness rather than romanticism. On top of the lewdness, drinkers are typically also emotionally unavailable as a side effect of their ongoing intoxication. Nobody wants to be in a relationship or pursue a relationship with someone who they feel is emotionally vacant and can’t reciprocate feelings.
9: NUMEROUS HEALTH EFFECTS OF ALCOHOLISM
Alcoholism comes with a wide variety of health effects. In the brain, individuals lose their cognitive capacity, making their moods and behaviors much more erratic. Physically, there’s a major toll taken on one’s liver, heart, and immune system. Alcohol-addicted people get sick much more often than those without drinking problems. Moreover, those who struggle with alcoholism are also prone to various types of cancer. In short, none of these various health effects is appealing, especially if they’re already becoming problematic.
10: NO “PROSPECTS”
While a person can be a real catch without being rich and living in a huge house while having a very prestigious career, such individuals usually have other things to fall back on. In particular, they have their personalities, their wits, senses of humor, knowledge, ability to be conversational and engaging, and so on.
However, those with severe drinking problems are uninhibited, frequently lewd and obnoxious, have declining physical health, have allowed themselves and their homes to fall into major disrepair, and oftentimes, have drunk themselves into poverty.
Additionally, many people struggling with alcohol addiction will eventually drive drunk and get charged with driving under the influence (DUI); if they get more than one charge, they run the risk of losing their driver’s license permanently. In short, they simply don’t really have much to offer.