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What Can Family Do To Help An Addict?

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The pain and suffering of drug addiction is not just felt by the addict themselves; it is also felt by the family as well.  The shame, guilt, fear and anger felt by family in their concern about a loved one’s drinking and/or drug use creates a significant and sometimes unbearable burden.  The disease of addiction can twist the love and willingness of family members to help into enabling behaviors that further perpetuate the cycles of addiction.

Families need to find way to turn those enabling behaviors into those that are directed towards more effective strategies to not only help the addict but the family itself.  The family unit needs to find ways to detach themselves from the actions, behaviors and consequences brought on by their loved one’s addiction and find ways to help in a positive manner.  The following are some ways the family can help an addict without enabling:

Learn About the Disease of Addiction

Families of loved ones who are struggling with addiction need to understand the dynamics of addiction as a disease.  Realizing that addiction is a chronic and progressive disease will help family members understand their loved one isn’t a bad person but a sick person in need of treatment and intervention.  Family members can educate themselves on the many facets of addiction by attending twelve step meetings (Al-anon, Alateen, etc.) and counseling.

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Cut Off Financial Support

Another way the family can help the addict is by providing financial support.  Money is the lifeline for the addict to continue their use.  Financial support can take many forms including paying bills, buying groceries, and paying rent among others.  While money may be given to the addict with the best intentions, the addict themselves will use those funds to procure drugs and alcohol.  By cutting off financial support, the addict may be forced to realize the consequences of their actions, may go through withdrawals and may seek treatment.

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Focus On Your Own Life

The consequences of a loved one’s addiction pulls attention away from the individual responsibilities that each family member has in their own lives.  Therefore, another way that family can help an addict is to turn away from focusing on the addict and renewing their energies with their own day-to-day living.  While on the surface it may not look like it, putting the focus back into individual and family responsibilities may force the addict to examine how their actions and behaviors impact their own life.

Don’t Rescue

Truth and consequences are the foundations of insight and these foundations hold true for addiction. Rescuing the addicted person from his or her consequences only ensures that more consequences must occur before the need for recovery is realized.  The same can be said for ultimatums and threats; words only marginally impact the alcoholic or addict. The maxim actions speak louder than words has great application.

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Enroll in a Family Program

Drug and alcohol abuse are seen as family diseases at its core, and it is important that the family gets as much support and guidance as the addict.  In order for families to better help the addict,  attending meetings such as Al-Anon or Nar-anon are essential  in order to receive continual education on the disease of addiction as well as ongoing peer support.  Families can also register for family programs (if available) at the drug treatment facility their loved one is attending.  The process of recovery is continual and families need to grow into recovery much like their loved one who is struggling with addiction and finding recovery.

2 Responses to “What Can Family Do To Help An Addict?”

  1. My sister has had a problem with opiates for a long time now. I just found out that she escalated to using heroin and I honestly don’t know how to deal with it. I feel terrified all the time and consumed with this. I have not yet spoken with her so she doesn’t know that I know. I have been trying to educate myself about this disease as much as I can but I’m scared. I feel like I’m waiting for the right time to try and talk to her but I also feel like the longer I wait that the clock is ticking. I understand I can’t come at her with judgment and accusation and that I need to come at her from a place of love and understanding but I’ve tried this before in the past and it did not work. And now she’s doing worse and I don’t want to push her away any further. I was hoping someone could give me some advice on how to talk to her. I know I can’t change her but I just want her to know I’m here whenever she feels ready to deal with this or just to talk. I’m scared that I’m not doing enough to help her. Nobody in my family knows except me and I don’t want to tell them for multiple valid reasons and so I feel very alone. I feel like if something happens to her I will blame myself a lot because I should’ve spoken up to her and other family members but the more I read and learn about this the more I see how sensitive this subject is. I don’t know what to do and I feel my sister slipping away from me forever. Please help me.

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    • Deja Holley

      Dana,

      Please check the email you provided when leaving this comment or give us a call so that we can talk with you privately about your sister and provide assistance. 1-855-960-5456

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